Thread:Eureka Enderborn/@comment-25356210-20160210165300/@comment-25356210-20160211193459

Eureka Enderborn wrote: Alright. Let's take this slowly. The core of the issue seems to be primarily centered around the issue of lore arguments. We'll deal with the core, then move onto the external crises. One by one.

Now, Heart, you are right. You do often have facts and logic on your side, and a lot of the things you argue about are things that would bug me too! However, I learned a really long time ago that I must find a way to rationalize the non-canon things to enjoy the RP. So here's what I do: whenever somebody introduces something that is rather un-canon, I imagine that it is taking place in an alternate timeline Middle Earth. I always thought of Eureka and the Union and a lot of our other stuff to exist in a sort of parallel timeline, and I have to tell you, that helps a lot. Of course, I'm still highly irritated by ridiculously uncanon things, like Umbar having a white tree, but it definitely helps.

Edacnik, I know that it seems like she thinks she's always right, and that she doesn't listen to or respect other people's views. And sometimes, when the argument gets heated, that is true. But in such a situation, the same is true for you as well. Remember that she's trying to do what she thinks is right, just as you are.

And this is one for both of you: I have a philosophy of non-escalation. Arguments get started because a person says something, a person counters it, and each person escalates the situation little by little until insults are flying through the forum! You both need to remember, next time you are in one of these situations, to be the person that says "I will not escalate this further! I will step back and be rational and civil!" If you do, your situation will improve greatly. When I say that, she just ignores all attempts at mature discussion and throws petty insults around. It's hard to ignore her slander - which she then accuses me of.